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Total profile views: 952 (68 since yesterday)

New received emails: 0 unsolicited, 1 solicited

New sent emails: 1 new, 1 reply

New winks: 1

Optimism level: I like what I’m seeing.

Given the short action period I mentioned yesterday, I decided not to waste my time writing to the second tier guys and went straight for one of my top guns. He looked cute in his picture and his profile was very funny. I figured one possible problem might be the fact that I’m a year older than his age range (so one year older than he is). But I figured the worst he can do is reject me. I wrote the letter and read it over at least once, probably twice, but it wasn’t until I read the cc sent to me that I noticed I made a typo. I wrote, “…you can view me profile…” instead of “my profile.” Great. Now he thinks I’m a pirate. Pull out the puffy shirt because apparently he’s not averse to pirates! He wrote me back first thing this morning:

Right now I’ve been dating a lot, am not really sure what it is that I’m looking for. You are definitely someone I’d like to know, so let’s grab coffee one morning. Your line about the last thing you read had me laughing out loud. If you’d like to get coffee, leave me your number and I’ll call u. Good luck, M

I’m happy he responded but I’m somewhat conflicted by what he wrote. First of all, I’m not sure why he had to mention he’s dating a lot. Maybe it’s in case we go out and he doesn’t like me he can fall back on the “things are getting serious with someone else” excuse. Or maybe he wants to come across as particularly desirable. I don’t know. The fact that my line of work involves an interest of his makes me wonder if that’s why I’m “definitely someone (he’d) like to know.” The next problem is the coffee-in-the-morning thing. I do enjoy coffee, but the only time I do mornings is if I’m still up from the night before. I don’t see how mornings are a good time to meet for anybody. Doesn’t he know how important good lighting is on a first date? And alcohol? Finally, I don’t really like that he asked me for my number off the bat. It would be one thing if he offered his but why should I have to give out mine?

On the other hand, he thought something stupid I wrote in my profile was funny, so clearly he has great taste. If he had written me this letter out of the blue, there’s a possibility I’d move it to one of my scary folders. Actually, no. Based on his profile and picture I’d probably move him to one of my questionable folders. But since I wrote to him first, I shouldn’t just write him off. So I guess I’ll let him know I’m interested in coffee- the later the better- if he can squeeze me in between all his other dates. Yes, I’ll phrase it differently. And I’m not sending him my number.

Before responding to his email, I decided to check out his profile again. In his face shot he looks as if he’d be kind of skinny. Personally, I prefer guys on the meatier side, but body shape isn’t a huge factor for me. OF COURSE I clicked on his picture to see if there were others before I wrote him in the first place, but saw none. Well, today when I clicked on his picture it enlarged to a full body shot. I don’t know why it didn’t do that before. Turns out he’s huge. Bodybuilder huge (See? Cheesy shirtless pics aren’t necessary to show off a good bod). Yowza! While it’s definitely nice to look at, I’ve dated guys with perfect bodies in the past and it tends to make me feel insecure about my own body. Every time he touches a squishy spot I’m thinking that he’s thinking, “Eww. I’m touching a squishy spot.” Strange as it sounds, his body could be a deterrent for me. I like a guy who works out enough to stay in shape but he’s clearly at the level where developing and maintaining his body is a big focus for him. I’m not sure I want a guy with priorities like that. I suppose the fact that I’m not quite so excited about him could work to my advantage should we meet. It eliminates that need for him to like me so I’ll probably be more comfortable. And if things don’t work out between us, it won’t feel like a big loss.

I didn’t receive any other emails today, not even from “Homer.” But I knew he would be traveling today so I didn’t expect to hear from him. I need to give myself plenty of options so I think tonight I’ll figure out who my next target should be and shoot off an email to him.