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Total profile views: 1291 (33 since yesterday)

New received emails: 0

New sent emails: 0

New winks: 0

Optimism level: I might have to change the title of my blog.

In yesterday’s comments section, someone posed the following:

Amazing! You spend an incredible amount of time analyzing people, and yourself. And, you focus on one or two prospects at a time, before moving on. Is it you, or women in general, you think?

First let me state that I’m a detail-oriented person so I pick up on things others might miss. I notice all the little negatives but I also notice (and appreciate) the little positives- like the “please” and “thank you’s”- so it all balances out. And I’m in a profession that’s forced me to hone the ability to process a lot of information quickly. My lengthy blogs are a result of the fact that I type very fast and not that I’m spending “an incredible amount of time anyalyzing” everything. Perhaps the analysis appears extensive because a few seconds’ worth of thoughts takes a bit longer to describe in print. Yes, I’m analytical. I analyze myself to try to become a better person and to avoid repeating mistakes. I analyze the men on Match because I’m looking for a serious relationship (possibly even marriage) with the right guy. If I sound extremely selective, it’s because I am. I don’t foresee a future where I tell people, “I used to be really picky, but then I dropped my standards drastically and that’s when I met my husband Ted here!” And the poor shmuck nods along, him carrying my purse while I carry his balls.

As for me pursuing only one or two prospects at a time, a few days ago I explained that when I’m really interested in something or someone, I tend to be very focused in that direction. I know from dating multiple guys in the past, that one was always the favorite and the others sort of fell by the wayside. I’m in no hurry to find a man. There’s no impending reunion for which I need a date. I’d rather take my time and give some thoughtful consideration to each guy who shows real potential.

Do all women analyze situations the way I do? I don’t know. Probably not. I see many women who end up in bad relationships because they either ignored or were oblivious to the red flags that popped up early on, like the little gold band on a guy’s ring finger. It would be great to find similar blogs from men and women so I could compare notes but in the meantime I have to rely on past experience and instincts to guide me in my selections (God sure ain’t gonna help me).

That all said, I might have to spend a little extra time analyzing why I didn’t hear from the guy I wrote to yesterday (or anybody else for that matter) and determine my next plan of action. Out of the 26 guys on my “favorites” list, there are only two or three more who really strike my fancy. Given how this proces has gone so far, I wonder if it’s wise to keep going after the ones who interest me most when maybe there’s something I should be doing differently with my emails or profile. Tomorrow, instead of searching for new guys, I think I’ll spend some time going through the profiles I’ve already collected and figure out some sort of pecking order for contacting them.