Match.com stats:

Total profile views: 2163 (86 since day 58)

New received emails: 3

New winks: 5

Optimism level: Maybe I shouldn’t have downsized from the six month membership.

It’s been so long since I’ve posted, some people probably wondered if I was lying in a ditch somewhere (and thought, “Yay! That means she finally went on a blind date”). No such luck. I’ve honestly had nothing to write about. At this point, my filing cabinets are pretty full of folders detailing why I ignored guys’ approaches. I don’t see much point in continuing to describe every email I receive, though I will still mention the ones that are particularly amusing or disturbing. As for the emails I send out, I think the less I say about the recipients, the better. I need to focus on the positives for actual prospects. The more I say about someone’s email or profile, the heavier the minor issues start to weigh. When I finally have firm plans for an actual date, then I’ll mention the guy.

As for George Costanza, that’s officially dead. While his personality seemed cool, I came to the realization that I could probably never be interested in him as more than a buddy. There are some things I never mentioned because I was trying to be positive about him initially, but I’ll spill now. One is that his profile includes four sentences on how important sex is in a relationship. I’ve already stated how silly I think it is for guys to mention this (though it’s even sillier when guys talk about how important it is for their woman to be attractive since that’s so subjective and it’s not going to weed out anybody). The problem with him mentioning sex so much is that it encourages the thought of sex with him, which kind of made me shudder. In his main picture, he almost looks…dirty. Not naughty dirty, but Pigpen dirty. I could deal with the extra 40-50 pounds he’s carrying but every time I received an email with his picture in my mailbox, I had to see his raggedy old t-shirt, the bandana around his head and his unkempt goatee. And unfortunately, there were plenty of emails from him that forced me to see it. It seems like every time 30 hours passed without a response from me, he sent me a little “hi” note (always with at least one smiley face). It’s sweet when a guy I’m dating sends a quick email to check in but when a stranger does it (especially after I told him I would be travelling), it comes across as both aggressive and desperate.

So I wrote to him and essentially said that given my current situation, now really isn’t a good time for us to meet. I said I didn’t think I could give him the consideration he deserves and I didn’t want to waste any more of his time. I was deliberately vague on “my situation” but left the possibility open for a future meeting. He sent back a paragraph that included three “lol”’s, even though he didn’t say anything funny. That gets to me as much as the emoticons. Rather than ask what “my current situation” is, he assumed it was that I’m too busy and discussed how busy he is with work. It kind of sounded like, “Well I’m doing this and that so who are you to talk about being busy?” It didn’t make sense to build a case for himself on his assumption when I could have just as easily meant I was dating someone else or I was sick or that “my current situation” doesn’t involve dating guys I find physically repulsive. The way people deal with rejection says a lot about them and his response reinforced my belief that he’s not for me.