Every now and then I receive an email or comment regarding this blog and it reminds me that this site is still up and that my experiences still resonate with the growing numbers of people who attempt online dating.
In the four years since I maintained this blog, I’ve continued to try online dating sporadically [...]

Match.com stats:
Total profile views: 2008 (47 since day 52)
New received emails: 0
New winks: 2
Optimism level: I guess I don’t deserve any better than I’m giving right now.

I just received a comment for day 52 that I think is worth exploring in detail. It’s basically in regards to how quickly I seem to write [...]

Match.com stats:
Total profile views: 1961 (55 since day 50)
New received emails: 2 unsolicited, 1 solicited
New sent emails: 2 new, 1 reply
New winks: 1
Optimism level: They’re all either too anxious or not anxious enough. Goldilocks not happy.

I fell behind a bit because Friday’s migraine never quite went away and came back full [...]

Match.com stats:
Total profile views: 1906 (54 since yesterday)
New received emails: 1 unsolicited, 1 solicited
New sent emails: 0
New winks: 1
Optimism level: This is giving me a headache.

I didn’t send out any new emails today because I had a migraine most of the day and couldn’t bear to look at my monitor for more [...]

Match.com stats:
Total profile views: 1852 (12 since yesterday)
New received emails: 1 unsolicited, 1 solicited
New sent emails: 2 new, 1 reply
New winks: 3
Optimism level: Does my profile say I’m a hooker?
At the point that I’d received three winks and one email, my profile indicated I’d had four page views. It’s [...]

Match.com stats:
Total profile views: 1840 (12 since yesterday)
New received emails: 1 unsolicited, 1 solicited
New sent emails: 1 new, 1 reply
New winks: 1
Optimism level: Interestingly, I think this whole process is making me LOSE interest in meeting a guy right now.

SENT EMAIL OF THE DAY: This guy viewed my profile [...]

Match.com stats:
Total profile views: 1828 (36 since yesterday)
New received emails: 0
New sent emails: 0 new, 1 reply
New winks: 0
Optimism level: Happy to see the profile views picking up. Though I guess it’s meaningless if nobody writes me.

After putting it off for a few days, I finally replied to George Costanza. He’s [...]

Match.com stats:
Total profile views: 1792 (30 since yesterday)
New received emails: 1
New sent emails: 1
New winks: 5

I sent an email to Adventure Man. I didn’t feel like it was a great letter but then again, the best email I’ve sent anybody (the one responding to the guy’s bird analogy) didn’t get a reply so maybe [...]

Match.com stats:
Total profile views: 1762 (16 since yesterday)
New received emails: 1
New sent emails:0
New winks: 0
Optimism level: New year, new outlook: I WILL find a man.

The holidays are over and my schedule’s pretty relaxed for the next week or two so I’m back to being a woman on a mission! I’ll be reconnecting with Mr. [...]

Match.com stats:
Total profile views: 1746 (30 since yesterday)
New received emails: 0
New sent emails: 0
New winks: 2

Match.com stats:
Total profile views: 1716 (14 since yesterday)
New received emails: 1 unsolicited, 1 solicited
New sent emails: 1 reply
New winks: 2
Optimism level: Anxious to get back to full throttle on Match.

When I signed up for Match, they included a magazine subscription in the deal. I thought it was a nice little [...]

Match.com stats:
Total profile views: 1702 (17 since yesterday)
New received emails: 0 unsolicited, 1 solicited
New sent emails: new, reply
New winks: 3

I received a reply (actually two) from Reality Check Guy. He wrote:
How is that now? By the way that was sweet of you to email me your comments, can i ask [...]

Match.com stats:
Total profile views: 1684 (11 since yesterday)
New received emails: 0
New winks: 1

Match.com stats:
Total profile views: 1684 (12 since yesterday)
New received emails: 0
New sent emails: 1
New winks: 0

As I said I’d do yesterday, I sent an email to the “Reality check” guy. I was very nice about it- we’ll see what sort of response I get.

Match.com stats:
Total profile views: 1676 (17 since yesterday)
New received emails: 1

New winks: 0
Optimism level: Hoping someday the good will be as good as the bad is bad.

I think stepping back from the Match process the way I have over the last week has helped a lot. My intent when I joined was to [...]

Match.com stats:
Total profile views: 1659 (23 since yesterday)
New received emails: 0
New winks: 2

Match.com stats:
Total profile views: 1636 (16 since yesterday)
New received emails: 0
New winks: 3

‘Twas the night before Christmas, when all across Match
Singles were searching for someone to catch.
The profiles were hung on the Internet with care,
In hopes that a hottie soon would see theirs.
The women were nestled all snug in their beds,
While visions of sugar [...]

Match.com stats:
Total profile views: 1620 (29 since yesterday)
New received emails: 2 unsolicited, 0 solicited
New sent emails: 0
New winks: 2
Optimism level: I can throw out this season’s mistletoe.

EMAIL #1: Good email but the guy’s two inches shorter wants a couple kids someday and he’s Protestant. Plus he’s got that little tuft of hair [...]

Match.com stats:
Total profile views: 1591 (17 since yesterday)
New received emails: 0
New sent emails: 0
New winks: 0

Match.com stats:
Total profile views: 1574 (22 since yesterday)
New received emails: 2 unsolicited, 1 solicited
New sent emails: 0
New winks: 1
Optimism level: Joy to the girl.

For the last couple days, I’ve been kicking myself for sending Adventure Man the “let’s meet” email. It makes sense that Mr. Energy, who initiated contact with me, would like [...]

Match.com stats:
Total profile views:1552 (12 since yesterday)
New received emails: 0
New sent emails: 0
New winks: 1

Match.com stats:
Total profile views: 1540 (24 since yesterday)
New received emails: 0 unsolicited, 1 solicited
New sent emails: 2 replies
New winks: 0
Optimism level: There’s still time to get my stocking stuffed before Christmas.

At this point, I’ve analyzed and discussed the Match search and email processes to death. Writing about every little [...]

Match.com stats:
Total profile views: 1516 (14 since yesterday)
New received emails: 1 unsolicited, 1 solicited
New winks: 1
Optimism level: Hoping to catch some last-minute deals before the shops close.

I have a confession to make: I have more than one Match profile online. I had to do it to accommodate all my personalities. Ok, [...]

Match.com stats:
Total profile views: 1502 (34 since yesterday)

New received emails: 1 (Month total: 32 unsolicited)

New sent emails: 1 (Month total: 7 with 3 responses)

New winks: 6 (Month total: 40)

Optimism level: I think Britney Spears married, divorced and remarried in less time.

I can’t believe I’ve been at this for a whole month [...]

Match.com stats:
Total profile views: 1468 (33 since yesterday)
New received emails: 0
New winks: 0

Optimism level: Maybe I’d find more matches if I browsed profiles drunk.

My blogs have been so long the last few days I haven’t had a chance to mention that I put a profile up at Date.com to check out their scene. [...]

Match.com stats:
Total profile views: 1435 (25 since yesterday)
New received emails: 1

New winks: 0
Optimism level: Ok, so I don’t have power, but at least I have a little information.

[Polls that were previously included have been removed due to formatting errors]
First of all, thanks to those who played along with my little polls- [...]

Match.com stats:
Total profile views: 1410 (12 since yesterday)
New received emails: 0
New sent emails: 0

New winks: 0
Optimism level: I could be close to a “yay” or “neigh” from a favorite.

I noticed that the guy I wrote to a week ago who seems like he’d be a great match finally logged on today and checked [...]

Match.com stats:
Total profile views: 1398 (14 since yesterday)
New received emails: 1 unsolicited, 0 solicited
New sent emails: 0
New winks: 1
Optimism level: At least my old rejection letter’s getting a good response.

If you’ll recall, on day 4 I filled out eHarmony’s personality profile (”A $40 value FREE!” they say, but if it was [...]

Match.com stats:
Total profile views: 1384 (12!!! since yesterday)
New received emails: 1 unsolicited, 0 solicited
New sent emails: 0
New winks: 0
Optimism level: ‘Tis the season… (with the highest suicide rate)

Ok, this will be my last comment on the low profile views for awhile. I picked a bad time to start my Match experience. People [...]

Match.com stats:
Total profile views: 1372 (26 since yesterday)
New received emails: 1 unsolicited, 0 solicited
New sent emails: 0
New winks: 0
Optimism level: Maybe I should omit this until I actually experience optimism.

I stayed off Match today, instead spending a little time browsing other blogs that deal with online dating. I found a [...]

Match.com stats:
Total profile views: 1344 (19 since yesterday)
New received emails: 1 unsolicited, 1 solicited
New sent emails: 1 reply
New winks: 0

Optimism level: Does my profile say I beat puppies?

EMAIL REPLY #1: This morning I received a reply from one of the guys I wrote to yesterday (the favorite). In his note [...]

Match.com stats:
Total profile views: 1325 (34 since yesterday)
New received emails: 1 unsolicited
New sent emails: 2 new, 0 reply
New winks: 2
Optimism level: Throw enough punches and I’m gonna land a hit sooner or later.

I sent out TWO emails today (and the crowd goes wild). When you compose an email on [...]

Match.com stats:
Total profile views: 1291 (33 since yesterday)
New received emails: 0
New sent emails: 0
New winks: 0
Optimism level: I might have to change the title of my blog.

In yesterday’s comments section, someone posed the following:
Amazing! You spend an incredible amount of time analyzing people, and yourself. And, you focus on one or two prospects at [...]

Match.com stats:
Total profile views: 1258 (54 since yesterday)
New received emails: 2 unsolicited
New sent emails: 1 new, 0 reply
New winks: 1
Optimism level: Onward and upward.

It’s been three days since I emailed “Homer” and four days since I called Bodybuilder Boy, so now I have to determine if there’s something I did in a 20 second [...]

Match.com stats:
Total profile views: 1204 (49 since yesterday)
New received emails: 0
New sent emails:0
New winks: 0
Optimism level: Tough to put a positive spin on all those zeros.

I noticed in my searches, that Match always displays 34 pages of results (with 10 guys per page). Even after removing profiles, there would still be 34 pages, which [...]

Match.com stats:
Total profile views: 1155 (28 since yesterday)
New received emails: 1 unsolicited, 0 solicited
New winks: 3
Optimism level: Nobody likes Mondays.

For the last few days, I’ve been bitching about the low profile views and responses. It finally occurred to me that when I changed my narrative, I also added more-specific answers to some of [...]

Match.com stats:
Total profile views: 1128 (23 since yesterday)
New received emails: 1 unsolicited, 0 solicited
New sent emails: 0 new, 2 reply
New winks: 3
Optimism level: Wondering if I’ll get a refund if I cut my subscription to a month.

Twenty three page views on a Sunday??!! I’m starting to wonder if Match found my blog, determined it [...]

Match.com stats:
Total profile views: 1105 (33 since yesterday)
New received emails: 2 unsolicited, 0 solicited
New sent emails: 0
New winks: 1
Optimism level: My approval rating’s dropping faster than George Dubya’s.

EMAIL #1: This came from one of the guys to whom I sent that stupid rejection letter last week. He wrote:
You sounds fantasitic!!! that was quite a [...]

Match.com stats:
Total profile views: 1062 (28 since yesterday)
New received emails: 2 unsolicited, 0 solicited
New sent emails: 0 new, 1 reply
Optimism level: Surely things will pick up over the weekend.

I tweaked my profile slightly today, removing the “falafel” request. I think it’s been well-established that most guys either don’t read the full narrative or they [...]

Match.com stats:
Total profile views: 1035 (51 since yesterday)
New received emails: 0 unsolicited, 1 reply
New sent emails: 0 new, 0 reply
New winks: 1
Optimism level: Getting a better response from my blog than my Match profile.

Two days in a row with low profile views and no emails. At this rate, I’ll have nothing to write about [...]

Match.com stats:
Total profile views: 984 (32 since yesterday)
New received emails: 0 unsolicited, 1 solicited
New sent emails: 1 new, 1 reply
New winks: 0
Optimism level: Maybe Match was down for maintenance all day.

It’s as if my profile jumped off the radar screen today. I had very few profile views and no new emails or winks. It’s become [...]

Match.com stats:
Total profile views: 952 (68 since yesterday)
New received emails: 0 unsolicited, 1 solicited
New sent emails: 1 new, 1 reply
New winks: 1
Optimism level: I like what I’m seeing.

Given the short action period I mentioned yesterday, I decided not to waste my time writing to the second tier guys and went straight for one of [...]

Match.com stats:
Total profile views: 884 ( 44 since yesterday)
New emails: 2 (”falafel” count: 4/16, sent email: 1)
New winks: 3
Optimism level: Gotta spread the eggs to several baskets

For some reason the page views dropped significantly today. It can’t be because of the new narrative because they’d have to open my profile to read it. Maybe people [...]

Match.com stats:
Total profile views: 840 ( 79 since yesterday)
New emails: 2 (”falafel” count: 4/14, sent email: 1)
New winks: 3
Optimism level: Made the jump. Where’s the damn safety net?

Last night I scrapped my old profile narrative and made a brand new one. I’m glad I did. The one that’s been viewable for the last week was [...]

Match.com stats:
Total profile views: 761 (106 since yesterday)
New emails: 0 (”falafel” count: 2/12)
New winks: 4
Optimism level: I need an unsend button.

Well, today I did something that could land me in some guy’s blog of Match.com horror stories. I’ve been feeling bad about not responding to the emails. I could have used Match’s pre-made rejection messages [...]

Match.com stats:
Total profile views: 655 (130 since yesterday)
New emails: 2 (”falafel” count: 2/13)
New winks: 5
Optimism level: Things seem to be picking up.

I’m sure my blog is becoming a bit redundant; guy sends me an email and I pick it apart. But as I mentioned, I’ve been holding off on contacting prospective matches because of the [...]

Match.com stats:
Total profile views: 525 ( 59 since yesterday)
New emails: 1 (”falafel” count: 2/11)
New winks: 4
Optimism level: They’re all turkeys.

One of the winks came from the guy on day #2 who emailed me saying my profile was “seductive.” I have to give him points for following up and for replacing his main picture in which [...]

Match.com stats:
Total profile views: 466 (75 since yesterday)
New emails: 2 (”falafel” count: 2/10)
New winks: 3
Optimism level: Nothing to be thankful for…yet

I seem to recall that when I tried Match the first time, I received around 7-10 emails a day instead of the two or three I’m getting this time. Maybe it’s because of Thanksgiving being [...]

Match.com stats:
Total profile views: 391 (83 since yesterday)
New emails: 1
New winks: 0
Optimism level: Attention drifting to humorously bad profiles

I haven’t received any winks since the first day. It occurred to me that all the winks came in the wee hours of Saturday morning when I happened to be logged on to Match. It made me [...]

Match.com stats:
Total profile views: 308 (69 since yesterday)
New emails: 3
New winks: 0
Optimism level: Already checking out other dating sites.

I realized that today is the last chance I have to change or cancel my subscription (I signed up for six months) so I decided to look into eHarmony and see what they have to offer. [...]

Match.com stats:
Total profile views: 239 (127 since yesterday)
New emails: 1
New winks: 0
Optimism level: Testing, 1, 2, 3. Is this thing on?

Only 48 hours into this journey and compared to yesterday, I’m down two emails and four winks (though I got an extra 15 page views). Perhaps on this, the day of the Lord, more [...]

Match.com stats:
Total profile views: 112
New emails: 3
New winks: 4
Optimism level: It’s only the first day.

Today I did my first search for a suitable mate. The initial set of criteria brought 340 possible matches so I had to chop it down to a manageable number. I started by weeding out everybody I couldn’t possibly imagine having [...]

I’m taking the plunge…again. I tried Match.com briefly a few years ago with no success. I actually went out with three guys I met online and surprisingly, they were decent guys with good jobs: an engineer, a dentist and an actor. Ok, so just two had good jobs. I didn’t feel chemistry with any of [...]

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