Update– Four Years Later
Every now and then I receive an email or comment regarding this blog and it reminds me that this site is still up and that my experiences still resonate with the growing numbers of people who attempt online dating.
In the four years since I maintained this blog, I’ve continued to try online dating sporadically for a month or two, including a couple stints in the last year and a half on the site Plenty of Fish. I completely changed the contents of my profile and it’s pretty damn funny, if I do say so myself. I mention this because I receive a lot of emails raving about my profile yet I still haven’t found anybody I connect with.
Over the course of my multiple online dating attempts, I’ve probably met about 10 guys in person. Of those 10, there was just one that led to any kissing and a second date, which admittedly was all about a physical attraction as we really didn’t have anything else in common. And there was only one guy that I was excited about meeting beforehand. We had good chemistry in our emails and phone call and we hit it off immediately in person and had quite a lot of laughs. But that romantic interest wasn’t there for either of us. Overall, I’d continue to say the guys I met were decent guys who just weren’t right for me.
No disastrous dates, no connections and so I find myself still single. It’s certainly discouraging that I have such difficulty finding someone I’m compatible with either online or in person. But I refuse to give up hope that I’ll meet someone special. I’ll just have to continue to learn and adjust and make that extra effort to try and find The One because I know it will be worth it.
Well I will say I disagreed with you on little things, but can’t hold anything against you.
Funny, you decided to update on my birthday. May take it as a sign.
Anyways, I wanted to say good luck, and I hope you find Mr.Right.
Just get a guy drunk, take him home, scare him in to a relationship. Work on distancing him from all his friends and family and eventually break his will to live. Once this is done you can make him in to the man you want or at least in to the man your girlfriends can deal with. Worse case scenario you get half his paycheck. Good Luck!
Personally I think online dating is useless for anyone over 28. It doesn’t matter how good you look for your age the computer will filter you out unless you lie about your age. All the male profiles ask for women their age and below because men are basically shallow and can’t see past a digit. Your best bet is to let the universe do the work for you and find someone in a face to face scenario. They’ll already know whether they are interested or not well before your age ever comes up in conversation. As a late 30′s female I get loads of attention from 20 somethings in person and only 50 somethings online. I’ll take the personal approach anyday.
I have to disagree with you on only dating useless for anyone over 28. I met my wife online and we’ve been happily married for 10 years now. Mind you I had many unsuccesful dates before her. I think there are wondeful people online, you just have to weed through the undesirables ..lol
Hey, I just want to let you know people still read this! You sound pretty cool to me. I actually came across this site when I searched “What is a good number of profile views on Match.com” I’ve been told I’m attractive, but I haven’t had any luck with women. I think it’s my introverted, slightly awkward, and sarcastic personality, but who knows? I’ve dealt with a few “disappearing” people before as well, and they get me every time! =) Anyways, I hope things are going well for you.
Chemistry.com has, at least, a good quiz associated, which was produced by Helen Fisher, an Anthropologist who has spent a great deal of time studying love.I am very interested in Neuroscience so i bought her book, then i had to take the Chemistry quiz out of curiosity. No interest currently in joining the site, but if you haven’t tried it, the way people are grouped into personality types seems like a good process, based on the individuals active brain chemical (estrogen, testosterone, serotonin, and dopamine). The book “why him, why her?” is also great. Cheers.
excellent, that comment made my day. i think that’s how it should work!